Your self-esteem

1. Stop comparing yourself to other people. There will always be people who have more of something than you, and there are people who have less of it than you. If you make comparisons, you will always have too many opponents or opponents in front of you that you cannot beat.

2. Stop berating and blaming yourself. You will not be able to develop high levels of self-esteem if you repeat negative statements about yourself and your abilities. Whether you talk about your appearance, your career, your relationship, your financial situation, or any other aspect of your life, avoid self-deprecating comments.

3. Accept all compliments and congratulations in return “thank you”. When you respond to a compliment with something like, “Nothing special, ” you reject the compliment and simultaneously send yourself a message that you are not praiseworthy, creating low self-esteem. Therefore, accept praise without belittling yourself.

4. Use affirmations (statements) to increase self-esteem. Place a statement like “I love and accept myself” or “I am an attractive woman and deserve the best in life” on some commonly used item, such as a plastic card or wallet. May this statement always be with you. Repeat the statement several times throughout the day, especially before going to bed and after waking up. Whenever you repeat an affirmation, feel positive emotions about the affirmation. Thus, the effect of the impact will be significantly enhanced.

5. Use seminars, books, audio and video recordings to improve self-esteem. Any information you allow into your mind takes root there and affects your behavior. Dominant information influences your actions in a dominant way.

6. Try to connect with positive and confident people who are ready to support you. When you are surrounded by negative people who constantly suppress you and your ideas, your self-esteem goes down. On the other hand, when you are accepted and encouraged, you feel better and your self-esteem as a person grows.

7. Make a list of your past accomplishments. It doesn't have to be monumental. The list may include small victories, such as learning how to snowboard, getting a driver's license, starting to go to the gym regularly, etc. Review this list regularly.

8. Form a list of your positive qualities. Are you honest? Selfless? Helpful for others? Are you creative? Be supportive of yourself and write down at least 20 of your positive qualities. As with the previous list, it is important to review this list frequently. Many people focus on their shortcomings, reinforcing low self-esteem there, and then wonder why things in their life are not as good as they would like. Start focusing on your merits and you have a much better chance of achieving what you want.

9. Start giving more to others. I'm not talking about money. It means giving yourself up in the form of actions that you can use to help others or positively reward others. When you do something for others, you begin to feel like a more valuable individual, and your self-esteem and mood increase.

10. Try to do what you enjoy. It's hard to feel positive about yourself if your days are spent at work that you despise.

Self-esteem thrives when you are busy with work or any other vigorous activity that brings you pleasure and makes you feel more valuable. Even if your job does not suit you completely, you can devote your free time to some of your hobbies that bring you joy.