For many of those who did not know it in their own skin, depression is associated with the image of a whiner, slobber and loafer who always whimpers and cries out for pity. And if it is sometimes forgivable for a woman, and sometimes even romantic, for a man, from whom our culture demands inflexibility and invulnerability, it is a shame, in fact, a blow in the balls with a sickle. And they often hide depression even from themselves. I hope this little reminder will help you - or a loved one - notice that something is amiss and seek help in time.
1. Women are diagnosed with depression twice as often as men. Largely because women go to doctors more often and are easier to tell when something is wrong with them. It is possible that in fact women suffer from depression more often.
2. But! But this means that doctors and psychologists form an idea of the clinical picture, judging by the typical female symptoms, and sometimes men do not seem to notice or attribute it to depression.
3. In particular, it is for men that "depression without sadness" is characteristic, when depression, lethargy, longing and sadness, which, by the way, are called depression in everyday language, are absent or poorly expressed, but irritability and anger, obsessions come to the fore, sleep disorders, loss of appetite, decreased self-confidence, and slurred bodily ailments.
4. About bodily ailments, that is, somatization of depression. These are headaches, pain in the back and joints, in the chest, pressure surges, lightheadedness, indigestion. Very often, men do not even suspect that the cause of these ailments should be sought in the head, and not in the torso.
5. Another frequent somatic effect deserves a separate item. I mean a sharp decrease in libido, sometimes accompanied by erectile dysfunction. For male self-esteem, this is destructive, which means it feeds depression; we get a self-sustaining process, a vicious circle.
6. Men react differently to depression. Not cakes, but alcohol, not tears, but aggression, not crawling into shells, but manic immersion in work, hobbies or computer games. Due to the fact that depression often forces men to drown it in a bottle, or even drown it out with even more serious substances, it can be difficult to figure out where the egg is, where is the chicken: depression is caused by drunkenness or has become its consequence.
7. Depression in men is more likely to develop as part of PTSD - simply because it is men who fight, catch criminals, extinguish fires and rescue victims of natural disasters, work in hazardous jobs where they face industrial accidents.
8. Women talk about depression - sobbing on social networks and on the breasts of girlfriends, although they cannot replace the help of a specialist, have an undoubted therapeutic effect. Men, on the other hand, swallow it in silence, and it eats away at them from the inside. Yes, there is one more circumstance that makes it difficult to seek professional help: the overwhelming majority of counseling psychologists are women. And to talk about deeply personal and painful with a person of the opposite sex is not only difficult for many, but absolutely impossible.
9. Women with depression live, albeit poorly, men die. The suicide rate among men is higher than among women in virtually all of the world, with the exception of literally a few countries. In Russia - six times, in America - four times. Age-related peaks in male suicide associated with depression occur in adolescence and old age.
10. Perhaps all these differences have not only social, but also genetic roots. Researchers at the University of Pittsburgh have found 19 chromosomal regions associated with a form of major depressive disorder. But only in three of them this relationship was significant for both sexes, and the remaining 16 were specific for men or women.