10 interesting myths about introverts (Marti Laney)

10 interesting myths about introverts which have been translated thanks to the book "The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World" by Marti Laney.

Myth 1 - Introverts are not talkative.

This is not true. They just don't speak if they have nothing to say. They don't like idle chatter. If you talk to them about something that interests them, it will be impossible to stop them.

Myth 2 - Introverts are shy.

Shyness has nothing to do with introversion. Introverts aren't afraid of people, but they need a reason to connect. They don't communicate just for the sake of communication. If you want to talk to an introvert, just talk to him. Don't be afraid to sound impolite.

Myth 3 - Introverts are rude.

Introverts often see no reason for ceremony or exchange of pleasantries. They want everyone to be natural and honest. Unfortunately, in most cases this is unacceptable, so sometimes introverts have a hard time adjusting, and this is tiring for them.

Myth 4 - Introverts don't like people.

On the contrary, introverts value very much the few friends they have. They can count close friends on the fingers of one hand. If you are fortunate enough to be an introvert's friend, you have a loyal ally for life. Once you've earned his respect as a meaningful person, he is with you.

Myth 5 - Introverts don't like to go out.

Nonsense. Introverts don't like going out too long. They absorb information very quickly, and therefore they do not need to spend much time in society to be "in the subject." They will go home to recharge and absorb the experience. Recharging with calmness is vital for introverts.

Myth 6 - Introverts always want to be alone.

Introverts are comfortable alone with their thoughts. They think a lot. They dream. They like it when there are problems that they can work on, problems that they can solve. But they can also feel lonely if they don't have someone with whom they can share their discoveries. They require a sincere, open-hearted relationship with only ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth 7 - Introverts are weird.

Most introverts are individualists. They don't follow the crowd. They prefer to be appreciated for their unusual lifestyle. They think with their own heads and therefore often challenge what is considered the norm. They don't make decisions based only on what's popular and fashionable.

Myth 8 - Introverts are introverted freaks.

Introverts are people who are primarily focused on the inward and give a lot of attention to their thoughts and emotions. It's not that they are unable to pay attention to what is happening around them, it's just that their inner world is much more interesting and useful for them.

Myth 9 - Introverts don't have fun and relaxation.

Introverts tend to relax at home or outdoors, rather than in noisy public places. They are not thrill seekers or adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talk and noise around, they close.

Myth 10 - Introverts can "fix" and become extroverts.

A world without introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. Introverts cannot "fix" themselves and deserve respect for their innate temperament and the benefits they have brought to humanity. By the way, a study by Silverman (1986) showed that the proportion of introverts among people with high IQs is significantly higher.

Excerpts / translation from: "The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World", by Marti Laney