Well-mannered people strive for something to apologize to others. It's time to end this.
1. For what you think of yourself
Since childhood we have been told so many times that
“I am the last letter of the alphabet” that many people have it imprinted on the subcortex of the brain.
For these people, completely natural concern for themselves and for their own good has become something shameful and unworthy. Although it is impossible to live any successful life without this property. You should not put your life on the altar of self-sacrifice, especially since most often it only goes to the detriment of the people “happy” by you.
2. For expressing your emotions
We are used to feeling embarrassed for crying or laughing. Although this is a completely natural manifestation of the fact that you have a heart and soul, which, perhaps, is more than the owners of a calm grimace stuck at all times. You can feel sad, fun, bored, infatuated, you are a living person. Why hide it?
Only people with really big hearts have the capacity for forgiveness and mercy. And let everyone around you be surprised that you are shaking hands with your enemies or not finishing off the enemy when there was a great opportunity for this, you should not worry. Don't be too violent just because someone expects it from you.
4. For their beliefs
A person with convictions commands respect. A person with convictions who does not hide them and is able to stand up for them is doubly respected. The presence of firm principles in our time is such a rare and valuable quality that one should definitely not apologize for them.
5. For being different
It's not weird at all to be weird. It's strange, on the contrary, when a group of people looks, thinks and feels exactly the same. If you are fortunate enough to be different, then this is not a reason to be ashamed of it. Perhaps this is your main advantage.
6. For how and with whom you spend your time
In principle, time is the only value that is really worth cherishing. And it would not be too prudent to waste this precious resource, guided by the opinion of people who are completely outsiders to you.
Lying on your deathbed, you, most likely, will not regret that you worked so little, but will remember the time you spent with loved ones, friends, in interesting places, for your favorite activities.
7. For your failures
Oh, this is a favorite phobia of many people! The fear that you will try, you will not succeed and everyone around you will scoff at you. They will remember this forever, and the shame for this failure will haunt you for the rest of your life.
But before you huddle in the darkest corner, imagine this picture.
Here you are - a person who tried and failed.
And here is another, one who was afraid to even try.
So which one of you should apologize to?
8. For his youth
Yes, each of us has moments in the past that we cannot be too proud of. Why are we there, look through the biographies of the greats - there such facts sometimes emerge that the hair stands on end.
Youth is meant for that, to commit madness and try this life to the teeth. All wise old people used to be young and stupid, they did stupid things and, perhaps, this is how they gained wisdom. No one has escaped this path in their lives, so there is no need to be ashamed of it.
9. For appearance
Another source of complexes for many people. And how can we not be complex when the covers of fashion magazines and the fashion industry obsessively drum into us the correct style canons, and not everyone succeeds in meeting them.
Yes, an overweight, unfashionably dressed person can make you smile. But this person will attract even more attention if he becomes convulsively complex about his appearance. Therefore, if your relationship with fashion and beauty did not work out, then relax and score.
Constant attempts to justify yourself in front of others can lead to the fact that you miss a unique chance to be yourself, with all your shortcomings and advantages. You will spend your whole life in a state of defensiveness, defending yourself against the invented claims of society. However, this tactic is unlikely to lead you to success, because only the one who goes forward and does not apologize at every step for it wins.