A single mother knows better than anyone that life does not end with divorce, and she happily goes on dates. If possible. Here's what to remember when dating a woman who has children, and what a single mom should tell a man about ...
1. LITTLE THINGS CAN BE PLANNED IN ADVANCE
Once she could get ready for a date at least all day: shave her legs, pick up a dress, change for jeans, change her mind a hundred times ... Now she is most concerned about who to leave the child with, and she can simply forget some little things.
2. TIME FOR HER IS PRECIOUS
Children take away a lot of physical and mental strength, so in rare moments without them, mom wants to take a nap, watch a new movie, have a drink or do something else just as pleasant. But in reality, this time is more often devoted to cleaning, cooking and other household chores. Therefore, a single mother values her time the most and will not waste it on those who are not worth it. If she gets bored on the first date, then the second will definitely prefer the wash.
3. SHE MAY NOT GIVE WAY TO EMOTIONS
A single mother usually does not have time for sobbing into a pillow and emotional distress, because she is busy with children, home, and even work. Therefore, if she seems overly restrained and harsh, it most likely only seems.
4. GETTING TO KNOW HER CHILD IS THE MOST IMPORTANT EVENT
A single mother will definitely not introduce her boyfriend to children after the very first date. And after the second. This requires a truly promising relationship, no matter how child-loving the new man is. The reason is simple: children quickly get used to a new "dad", and if he disappears in a week or a month, they will be very bored.
5. THE CHILD IS HER MAIN PRIORITY
The man in the life of a single mother will always be in the background. This is one of those things that does not need to be explained: she put her whole soul (and partly her body) in the offspring, and anyone who tries to break their connection will lose.
6. SOMETIMES SHE HAS TO TAKE A CHILD ON A DATE
Of course, she would like sensual dates and preferably for the whole night. But the circumstance in the person of her child will have to be reckoned with - after the man passes the acquaintance test. Sometimes he will have no one to leave with or he will want to see “that uncle” again. So you have to keep your feelings to yourself.
7. COMMUNICATION WITH A FORMER HUSBAND DOESN'T EQUAL FEELINGS FOR HIM
If a single mother gives the child to her ex-husband or meets with him for some child's affairs, this does not mean at all that they want to return everything. It's just that they are good parents, and the child is the only thing that unites them now.
8. SHE CAN CANCEL A DATE
Troubles happen, and most often - with children. The date can be postponed if the baby is suddenly ill, needs attention right now, or something unexpected has happened. Do not be offended - everyone has the right to get sick.
9. IT DOESN'T NEED TO BE SAVED
A single mother is not at all an unhappy person who is just waiting for the prince to appear on a white horse and save her from paying bills and screwing in light bulbs. Everything has its time, and pity, along with unwanted help, is inappropriate here. However, as in any other relationship