"Mom, I don't want to go to school! I'm tired of it! Can I not go?" - Raise your hand, parents, who hears these words a couple of times a week? And why should the whole family really skip school from time to time?
Skip lessons And what, in fact, are we so afraid of when a child asks to skip lessons for a while?
MISS NEW TOPIC
Yes, it might miss. But what is more difficult - to assimilate information in a class where there are twenty-five people, noise and din, and the teacher still focuses on the slowest, or at home, alone with a textbook (or parents)? Well, he will sort it out with a new topic somehow.
NOTHING TO GIVE HIM
"Children need to be pampered, then they become real robbers": in fact, there is a big difference between a permissive attitude ("Do what you want, it does not matter to me at all") and attention to the needs of the child ("By law, you are obliged to finish school, and I - to provide it, but if you are tired or you do not like something - tell me, we will somehow solve this problem "). If the child understands that the rules do not exist for the sake of the rules, but there is a sense behind them, and he can not fight the inevitable alone, but consult with his parents - it will be easier for him to live.
WE WILL ALLOW ONCE - WANTS MORE
Maybe he wants to. And most likely, he will find that absenteeism has ceased to be something forbidden and alluring. After all, if dad and mom are generally calm about the child's words about an acute reluctance to go to school, they do not rush to shame him, accuse him of laziness and sloppiness, and moreover, sometimes they are even really ready to leave him for a day at home, it means that with them and the truth is, you can talk frankly. Not only about your unwillingness to go to school, but about something more important.
absenteeism from school
NO ONE DOES THIS
You don't think that your child is so unique that he sometimes dreams of not going to school? In fact, there are a lot of such children, only many, for example, get sick for a week - they go to lessons for a week, or in the morning they are tormented by nausea and headache, or a tic appears. Because if the brain is tired and overworked, the body will definitely react to it.
WILL HAVE SOMETHING TO EXPLAIN TO THE TEACHER
There is an excellent wording - "for family reasons." You're not going to skip every week, are you? If you need to explain to the teacher why your child sometimes misses school, refer to the recommendation of a psychologist, in the end: from overload, the student starts to think even worse, so he just needs a rest.
WHY IS IT GOOD TO GO TO SCHOOL SOMETIMES?
The feeling of inevitability disappears, which means that the need to go to school ceases to be burdensome.
Unscheduled rest and good sleep during the week noticeably add strength to the child.
A schoolboy is unlikely to maliciously skip lessons behind garages or wander the streets - why, if this can sometimes be done quite legally.
There is no point in lying either: parents have already established themselves as adequate people who are better off telling the truth.
The child learns the concepts of "negotiating" and "observing agreements": if you jointly decide that it is not worth skipping more often than once a month, then it is necessary to adhere to this.
The child learns to better understand himself and his feelings, their needs, to evaluate their resources and to react to the loss of energy not when it has already happened, but a little in advance.